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Adoption Options

Some couples choose to adopt because they have tried conceiving naturally and with fertility drugs or artificial insemination, and have been unsuccessful. Others want to adopt a baby, either because they are unable to conceive or because they feel that this is the best choice for them.

There are a few types of adoption for you to consider if you decide that it may be an option. Adopting is a very personal decision, and it can be difficult and stressful to determine which type is best for your family. Don't rush into anything take the time to discuss everything with your partner, and wait until you're completely sure before you commit to anything.

A private adoption means that the process is arranged by an attorney. In many cases, the birth mother or parents never meet with the adoptive parents, and will not have visitation with the child once the papers are signed. A private adoption may be done through the state, or through an agency.

An open adoption means that the prospective parents meet with the birth mother or parents, and there may be a private agreement where the adoptive parents pay all of the medical and legal fees associated with the adoption. The birth mother or parents may arrange to write letters to their child, or even to visit occasionally.

International adoption has become more recognized in the past few years, and it's possible to adopt children from virtually any country in the world. Make sure you look into the adoption laws of not only your state, but of the country itself, as they vary from place to place. For some foreign adoptions, you will need to stay for a few weeks in the country to process paperwork.

If you're considering adoption, the first step is to find out what the laws are where you live. In some states, you will need to involve an adoption agency, and you'll need to get a family assessment and undergo counselling to make the process legal. If you decide to contact a birth mother directly in regards to adoption, you'll need to ensure that all legal documents are witnessed by a lawyer. This scenario can be more risky, but it has worked for some parents who are looking to adopt a child.

It's always a good idea to speak with an adoption counselor if you are considering adoption. He or she can point you in the right direction, as well as help you deal with the emotions surrounding private or open adoption.


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